Parents and teenagers opinions on dating
Otherwise, kids hit adulthood and they don't know how to deal with conflict." So is she right? Should parents be preparing their children for potential future confrontations?Christina Hopkinson, author of The A-List Family and mother of three children under 10, doesn’t think so.“No, I don't think couples should argue in front of the children,” she says.“There are lots of normal, healthy activities that our children can know that we parents do without having to witness them - sex being the obvious example.
But children are perfectly capable of learning about the bad things in life without having to be continually exposed to them.” A study from the University of East Anglia, the results of which were published earlier this year, would agree it's unhealthy.A constructive argument might be helpful for kids to see in some situations – but you want them to be in no doubt that you still love each other. “That’s particularly unhelpful to children and can trigger a ‘fight or flight’ response, as they’ll feel threatened”.Don’t argue about the children in front of the children: This will likely leave one parent on the side of the child and the other in opposition – so the child itself will see an opportunity to divide and conquer.It scanned the brains of 58 teenagers aged 17 to 19 – and asked their parents to recall any family negativity between the child’s birth and the age of 11 (such as raised voices, aggression, or physical violence). Those who had experienced family discord in their formative years had a smaller volume of grey matter in the brain, particularly the cerebellum (which has been linked to problems such as impaired learning, anxiety, schizophrenia, depression and bipolar).Dr Helen Rodwell is a consultant clinical psychologist, specialising in families dealing with domestic violence.